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What Are Secondary Gains?

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Identifying PSYCH-K secondary gains can help you achieve greater results with your health and life.

Are you not getting results with PSYCH K or other healing methods? Do you feel stuck and like it’s difficult to make progress? We’re here to help you dig deeper at the root of your issues. Let’s look at secondary gains and how they can get in the way of your success in ALL areas of life.

PSYCH-K Secondary Gains

In psychology, a secondary gain is when you benefit from a problem. It’s when you receive advantages from unwanted conditions, circumstances, or limitations in your life. The benefits come from NOT overcoming your problems. It doesn’t mean the problem is positive, but there are benefits to having that problem so you keep the problem rather than overcome it.

What can be a Secondary Gain?

Secondary gains can be health issues, injuries, addictions, and unhealthy behaviors.

For example, you might crave more attention in your life. So, subconsciously, you accidentally injure yourself. As a result, everyone starts paying attention to you and taking care of you. You get what you want (attention), but at the expense of something you don’t want (injury). For many people, these unwanted problems create the outcome they want. Most people have no idea they’re doing this because it’s happening at a subconscious level.

Secondary Gain Examples

Below are examples of secondary gains. We start with the problem or something negative you don’t want. Then, we list the positive benefits gained from the situation.

You accidentally injure yourself. 

Secondary gain: You get to take time off work, your family takes care of you, and everyone gives you attention. Ouch, but yay!

You break up with every person you date for no good reason.

Secondary gain: You don’t have to let people close to you. No one will know the real you, so your flaws and weaknesses are kept safe.

You suffer from anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts.

Secondary gain: People are friendlier and more caring. Nobody expects anything of you, and people make more of an effort to spend time with you. Your partner stays with you.

You’re addicted to smoking/alcohol.

Secondary gain: Your addiction helps you relax and fit in socially. Addictions can be a BIG secondary gain as they often create the experience you want… but at a cost.

Secondary Health Gains

You put on weight and can’t seem to lose it no matter what you do.

Secondary gain: Your friends find you more relatable. You might not feel like you deserve the attention you get from being in shape, or perhaps past situations made you feel like it’s not safe to be good-looking, causing you to surround yourself with a layer of fat to fit in and play it safe.

You have health issues, such as chronic fatigue or pain.

Secondary gain: Perhaps it prevents you from being social, working, or doing something else you don’t want. You can stay home and do less. Your fear of failure provokes anxiety and stress, but now you don’t have to worry about failure because you don’t have to do anything.

You get diagnosed with cancer.

Secondary gain: You quit a job you hate and now you can do things you enjoy, like reading, yoga, and cooking healthy meals. Your family loves you and helps more around the house.

You experience infertility.

Secondary gain: You no longer worry about your fears of being a bad parent. Your stress reduces as you don’t have to figure out how to support another person. Or perhaps you love your job and are relieved you don’t have to take time off work.

Do you struggle with secondary gains?

Overcoming PSYCH-K Secondary Gains

Why are secondary gains a problem?

When it comes to achieving your PSYCH-K goals and Belief Statements, secondary gains can help AND hurt you. They often help you get your desired outcome, but not how you want. They can also harm you, keep you from solving problems, and prevent growth. As a result, they perpetuate issues and create even more unhealthy patterns. 

How does this make it difficult to change?

The benefits that come with secondary gains can prevent you from changing because these gains have greater value than your desired goal. Even if you’re unaware of them, they keep you stuck. You might make progress, but usually, that’s short-lived as you return to old habits. So, if you had a PSYCH-K session, but didn’t experience much success, identify secondary gains. You must address these issues or the unwanted pattern will continue.

Identify Your Problems & Gains

Secondary gains can originate from adulthood, childhood, and even past lives. First, look at your problems. What benefits do you receive from these problems? Is there anything keeping you stuck? What fears are you protecting yourself from? PSYCH-K can help you transform any fear around losing those benefits. It can also change old beliefs and perceptions to allow you to create a new way of living. In addition, Cate can also ask the Superconscious for a message to resolve known or unknown secondary gains. We’ll also find healthier ways to get what you want while meeting your needs.

For example, a smoker finds relaxation in smoking. So, what else can a person do to relax? That person might replace smoking with HeartMath, yoga, meditation, or exercise. The key is finding something more motivating and fulfilling than the old behavior.

Another example is a person who wants attention and gets an injury. How else can you receive attention without having an injury? Do you need attention from others or yourself? That person might find it helpful to give themselves more attention via self-love and self-care.

Get Started with PSYCH-K to learn how you can take your health and life to a whole new level!