What Are Secondary Gains?
Identifying PSYCH-K secondary gains can help you achieve greater results with your health and life.
Not getting results with PSYCH K or other healing methods? Do you feel stuck or like it’s difficult to make progress? We’re here to help you dig deeper at the root of your issues. Let’s look at secondary gains and how they can get in the way of your success in all areas of life.
PSYCH-K Secondary Gains
In psychology, a secondary gain is when you benefit from a problem. It’s when you receive advantages from an unwanted condition, circumstance, or limitation in your life. The benefits come from NOT overcoming your problems. It doesn’t mean the problem is positive, but there are benefits to having that problem. Thus, it becomes more beneficial to keep the problem than to overcome it.
What can be a Secondary Gain?
They can be health issues, injuries, addictions, and unhealthy behaviors.
For example, you might be craving more attention in your life. So, subconsciously, you accidentally injure yourself. The result? Everyone starts paying more attention to you and taking care of you. You get what you want (attention), but at the expense of something you don’t want (injury). For many people, these unwanted problems create the outcome they want. Most people have no idea they’re doing this. Why? Because it’s happening at a subconscious level, which means it’s below the level of awareness. They’re not faking it. They just know they’re getting the results they want, which perpetuates the problem.
Below are some examples of secondary gains. We start with the problem. This is something negative that you don’t want. Then, we list the outcome. These are positive benefits gained from the problem.
You accidentally injure yourself.
Secondary gain: You get to take time off work, your family takes care of you, and everyone gives you attention. Ouch, but yay!
You break up with every person you date for no good reason.
Secondary gain: You don’t have to let people close to you. No one will know the real, vulnerable you. Thus, your flaws and weaknesses are kept safe.
You suffer from anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts.
Secondary gain: People are nicer and more caring. Nobody expects anything of you. Your partner doesn’t leave you. People make more of an effort to spend time with you.
You’re addicted to smoking/alcohol.
Secondary gain: Your addiction helps you relax and fit in socially. Addictions can be a BIG secondary gain. The addiction creates the experience you would like to have.
You put on weight and can’t seem to lose it no matter what you do.
Secondary gain: Your friends find you more relatable. You might not feel like you deserve the attention you would get from being in shape. Or perhaps past situations made you feel like it’s not safe to be good looking. So you surround yourself with a layer of fat to fit in and play it safe.
You have health issues, such as chronic fatigue or pain.
Secondary gain: Perhaps it prevents you from being social, working, or doing something else you don’t want to do. You can stay home and do less. Your fear of failure provokes anxiety and stress. But, now you don’t have to worry about failure because you don’t have to do anything.
You get diagnosed with cancer.
Secondary gain: You quit a job you hate. Now you get to do the things you enjoy like reading books, yoga, meditation, and cooking healthy meals. Your family is extra loving towards you and helps out more around the house.
You experience infertility.
Secondary gain: You no longer worry about your fears of being a bad parent. Your stress is reduced as you don’t have to figure out how you’re going to support another person. Or perhaps you love your job and are relieved you don’t have to take time off.
Do you struggle with any secondary gains?
Overcoming PSYCH-K Secondary Gains
Why are secondary gains a problem?
When it comes to achieving your PSYCH-K goals and Belief Statements, secondary gains can help and hurt you. They often help you get your desired outcome, but not in the way you want. They can also harm you, keep you from solving problems, and prevent growth. As a result, they perpetuate problems and create even more unhealthy patterns.
How does this make it difficult to change?
The benefits that come with secondary gains can prevent you from changing. Whether consciously or subconsciously, these gains have greater value than your desired goal. Even if you’re unaware of them, they can keep you stuck. You might make some progress, but usually that’s short-lived as you return to old habits. So, if you had a P-K session, but didn’t experience much success, then look at your problems and identify any secondary gains. You must address these issues or the unwanted pattern will continue.
Identify Your Problems & Gains
Secondary gains can originate from adulthood, childhood, and even past lives. First, look at the problems you have. What benefits do you receive from these problems? Is there anything keeping you stuck? What fears could you be protecting yourself against? PSYCH K can help you transform any fear around losing those benefits. It can also change old beliefs and perceptions to allow you to create a new way of thinking and behaving. In addition, Cate can also ask the Superconscious for a message. This can resolve any known or unknown secondary gains. We’ll also find healthier ways to get what you want while getting your needs met.
For example, a smoker finds relaxation from smoking. So, what else can a person do to relax? That person might replace smoking with HeartMath, yoga, meditation, or exercising. The key is to find something that’s more motivating and fulfilling than the old behavior.
Another example is a person who wants attention and gets an injury. How else can you receive attention without having an injury? Do you need attention from others or yourself? That person might find it helpful to give himself or herself more attention via self-love and self-care.
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