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10 Tips to Break Free from Perfectionism & Empower Your Mindset with PSYCH-K

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Perfectionism can appear to be a positive trait, but it’s a significant barrier to achieving optimal health and well-being. In psychology, perfectionism is defined as an individual’s relentless pursuit of flawlessness, believing that nothing less than perfection is acceptable. For perfectionists, their sense of self-worth is tied to achieving unrealistic standards, and any perceived failures or mistakes are viewed harshly. 

This pressure to be perfect in all areas of life can lead to stress, anxiety, and health problems. That’s why we recommend using PSYCH-K, an energy psychology technique, to break free from perfectionism. PSYCH-K allows you to identify and change negative beliefs and patterns that contribute to perfectionism. Through simple exercises, you can reprogram limiting beliefs and create a more compassionate and harmonious approach to life. We’ll cover 10 helpful tips and explain how PSYCH-K can help you break free from perfectionism.

Are YOU a Perfectionist?

Are you a perfectionist or do you have perfectionist tendencies? Answer the following questions to determine why and how perfectionism might play a role in your life.

  • Is your self-worth determined by what you achieve?
  • Do you feel like you’re never good enough no matter what you do?
  • Are you hard on yourself and highly critical of your work?
  • Do you find it hard to relax and perform tasks from start to finish?
  • Is it hard for you to know when to stop or put things down?

What’s the Root of Perfectionism?

Perfectionism often stems from underlying limiting subconscious beliefs, especially around self-worth and safety. These limiting beliefs are usually programmed during childhood. If you grew up in an environment that your subconscious mind perceived to be unsafe, then you’ll do everything to protect yourself, including attempting to control and perfect the outcomes in your life. Unfortunately, unless you change your subconscious programs, you’ll continue to create unfavorable outcomes that match those limitations.

To overcome perfectionism, identify your limiting beliefs. Look back and observe your childhood. Children learn self-worth from those in their environment growing up. In an attempt to receive love, attention, and approval, children have a strong desire to please, perform, and achieve. But, kids don’t have the experience to question things or understand that adults can be wrong. So if an adult says you’re stupid, fat, or unsuccessful, you’ll believe it and find evidence to support it throughout your life. This could spark your endless quest for perfection, which is really a desire for safety, love, attention, and approval.

Perfectionism in Childhood

Get a better idea of how your childhood shaped your desire for perfection…

  • Were you praised for your efforts or your accomplishments? 
  • Did you feel pressure to perform and achieve, such as getting straight A’s in school? 
  • Were mistakes looked down on in your family or celebrated as learning opportunities? 
  • Did you grow up around perfectionists or people with unrealistically high expectations?
  • Were you around highly critical, shaming, or abusive people during childhood?
  • Did you grow up with a person with a mental illness or addiction, such as alcoholism?
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PSYCH-K: The Energy Psychology Technique to Overcome Perfectionism

Although you’re different now than when you were a kid, your subconscious programs remain the same unless you change them. There are many ways to change subconscious programs, including hypnosis, repetition, and energy psychology. PSYCH-K is a proven form of energy psychology that allows you to rapidly change limiting beliefs. PSYCH-K helps you overcome perfectionism by transforming your beliefs around self-worth, safety, and more. It shifts your mindset from fear and scarcity to self-love and abundance.

10 Tips for Breaking Free from Perfectionism

Are you tired of the harmful effects of perfectionism and ready to break free using the power of PSYCH-K? Perfectionism negatively impacts every aspect of your life, from your relationships and work to your finances and health. If left unchecked, it can leave you feeling hopeless, isolated, exhausted, and drained. The pursuit of perfection often leads to stressful wake-up calls, which indicate that your approach is unsustainable and unsupportive.

Unfortunately, stress can push perfectionists further into self-destructive habits. So, how can you make the shift towards a healthier mindset? Here are ten practical tips that, especially when combined with PSYCH-K, can greatly help perfectionists break free from their inner critic and embrace a more fulfilling, balanced approach to life.

1. Know You’re Worthy

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Pssst… YOU are worthy, just as you are! Your self-worth doesn’t depend on anything external. Your worthiness is inherent and unconditional, and you deserve all the love, success, happiness, and abundance that life has to offer. It’s time to break free from the exhausting cycle of “never enough” and let your light shine.

You have the potential to step into your greatness, so don’t let insecurities, shame, judgment, or guilt hold you back. You’re more likely to succeed with compassion than criticism. Self-compassion is the antidote to perfectionism because it allows you to accept mistakes and failures as valuable learning opportunities. With compassion, you can view outcomes in a more positive light, enjoy the journey, and appreciate life more fully. Let go of self-induced suffering and embrace a mindset of self-love and compassion.

This Expanding Compassion Exercise is a powerful tool for cultivating self-love and compassion, rewiring your brain for positivity, and raising your overall vibration. To begin, find a quiet space and stand in front of a mirror with your feet hip-width apart and your hands up in a “V” position towards the sky and smile. Take three minutes to gaze into your eyes and offer kind, loving words to yourself. Imagine everything loving you say towards yourself radiating love out and into the world around you, spreading good vibes for all to benefit. Feel the loving energy that arises within you. Repeat this exercise daily, and over time, you’ll feel more confident, loving, and compassionate.

2. Love Yourself Unconditionally

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The most important thing you can do for yourself, others and this planet is to love yourself. When you love yourself it’s easier to LOVE what you do, who you’re with, and your life. The world needs more love and that starts with each individual. PSYCH-K can help you cultivate self-love and identify negative beliefs holding you back from experiencing this powerful emotion. The more you cultivate love and joy within yourself, the more you’ll spread love and joy everywhere. Start by Nourishing Yourself With Self-Love.

3. Get Perspective

Getting perspective is a helpful tool for perfectionists, and when combined with PSYCH-K, it can be even more powerful. PSYCH-K can help individuals reframe their thoughts and beliefs, allowing them to see things from different perspectives and embrace a more positive, empowering mindset. Here’s how to apply this approach in your daily life:

Perfectionists tend to hyper-focus on details and lose sight of the big picture. By zooming out and seeing things from different perspectives, you can gain a broader understanding, develop a more positive outlook, and connect more with your purpose. One way to get perspective is to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves and admires you. Imagine yourself in their body, looking at you with love and admiration. Feel their kind words and loving energy.

4. Lighten Up

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Worry, stress, and fear weigh you down and lead to low vibrations. Instead, aim to laugh and enjoy life more. Laughter is one of the best ways to lighten up quickly. Life is challenging and always will be, otherwise, there would be no growth and that would be boring. Let’s get some giggles, chuckles and ab-aching laughs where peeing yourself is a possibility. Laughter is contagious, and when you allow yourself to experience it fully, it can help you feel more connected, present, and positive. “I wish I didn’t laugh so much,” said no one ever! Take a more playful perspective and don’t take things so seriously.

Remember that doing things that aren’t on your to-do list can boost productivity. Taking breaks to find joy and laughter can help you feel more energized, creative, and productive. So, how can you bring more laughter and joy into your life? Whether it’s watching a funny movie, spending time with loved ones, or taking a moment to appreciate the beauty around you, doing things that raise your vibes help you feel more connected to the present and inspired to co-create your dream life. Need support? PSYCH-K can help you let go of limiting beliefs and embrace a more positive, playful perspective.

5. Slow Down

When you’re on the never-ending hunt for perfection, it feels like there’s NEVER enough time. You feel pressure to get things done to your high standards while feeling rushed to meet deadlines. This creates a lot of STRESS. Slow down to get out of your head and connect with your heart. Slowing down helps you surrender to the present which is especially beneficial for perfectionists struggling with anxiety. Anxiety only lives in the future. Slow down to enjoy life more. Ease into your morning, savor each bite of food, smell the flowers, and read a good book. I recommend reading Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

6. Connect With Others

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Most people love having perfectionists work for them, but don’t love having them as friends because they don’t always help others feel good about themselves. We like friends who are imperfectly human because we are too. It’s easier for us to relate and connect with others when they embrace their authentic selves instead of striving for some ideal that doesn’t exist. As a result, perfectionists often suffer from isolation and loneliness. Rather than pushing people away, let others in. You’re not alone and will make more progress with support.

7. Trust the Process

Trusting the process is a powerful tool for overcoming perfectionism and achieving greater success and happiness in life. When combined with PSYCH-K, this approach can be even more transformative. PSYCH-K can help you identify and reprogram any limiting beliefs or negative thought patterns that may be holding you back from trusting the process fully. By letting go of these limiting beliefs and embracing a more positive mindset, you can experience greater trust and faith in the unfolding of your life.

Perfectionism often stems from underlying beliefs of not feeling safe or good enough, leading to attempts to control the outcome. However, this approach often creates resistance and can push the desired outcome further away. By letting go and allowing things to unfold, you can exercise your trust muscle and let your faith rise above your fear. Trusting the process can lead to outcomes that are better than you could have imagined.

8. Shift Your Mindset

Perfectionists often see things in black or white. That was “good” or “bad.” I’m a “success” or “failure.” Rather than limiting yourself with this narrow mindset, open yourself up to ALL of the possibilities that exist. Get curious! How might this imperfection be a blessing? Rethink failures, mistakes, and imperfections. Shift your definition of success to having fun and being a life-long learner. View mistakes as opportunities to improve and see the beauty in imperfection. In Japan, they practice wabi-sabi, “to find beauty in imperfection.” For example, when a valuable piece of pottery breaks, they restore it with a lacquer mixed with gold, silver, or platinum. After this 500-year-old art of kintsugi or “golden joinery,” the imperfect piece becomes highly valued. Begin seeing the value in imperfection. 

9. Support Deep Healing

Perfectionism can trigger a stress response, which can have a significant impact on your physical and mental health. Many people with perfectionist tendencies also tend to have some level of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). Stress is counterproductive to healing, and over 90% of doctors’ visits are stress-related. When you’re stressed, everything from digestion and energy to metabolism and brain function can become compromised. To support deep healing, it’s essential to Calm Your Nervous System and manage stress effectively.

It’s also beneficial to eat a high vibration diet that consists of whole foods and products made from whole food ingredients. Eat a wide variety of colorful foods and hydrate throughout your day. Keep stress low by making decisions from a place of love instead of fear. For example, don’t take your supplements because you fear not taking them will create dis-ease. Instead, take your supplements because you love how they make you feel. 

10. Start Small

The overwhelming fear of failure can prevent you from taking the next step. You can even get “paralysis by analysis” in which you analyze things so much you feel paralyzed. Rather than getting ahead of yourself by focusing on the end goal, break it down into small, doable steps. Then, approach each step as an experiment. If something doesn’t work, then change it. Permit yourself to get started, no matter what that looks like. Celebrate all progress, including mistakes! And remember that you’re worthy by being YOU, not based on what you accomplish. 

Take Action Breaking Free From Perfectionism

Now you see how destructive perfectionism can be and that there are tips and methods, like PSYCH-K, that can help you break free from perfectionism. Don’t let old b.s. (belief systems) prevent you from fully being yourself, connecting with others, and enjoying your life.

  • Practice daily self-care to increase your self-love and self-worth
  • Zoom out and laugh to get perspective and lighten up
  • Slow down to connect more with yourself, others, and nature
  • Surrender to the present moment and trust the process
  • Find the beauty in imperfection and approach things with a curious mind
  • Support deep healing by relaxing and enjoying your life more
  • Make decisions based on love, not fear
  • Break down your goals into small, doable steps and celebrate any “mistakes”

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